We Are Family

We Are Family is a peer to peer support community by adopters, for adopters. They are here to support families throughout their adoption journey. Online and in person, parents’ groups, events, resources and talks offer mutual support, information and inspiration to adopters and those considering adoption. We Are Family believe that by coming together, sharing experience and understanding, adopters can help each other to thrive. Founded and led by adoptive parents, We Are Family reflects and responds to its members, helping them navigate the challenges and joys that adoption brings.

We Are Family partner with Adopt London to provide WAF Talks, the successful webinar programme for adoptive parents. Specialist webinars run for We Are Family members throughout the year and can be watched back at any time after the event through the members hub. See the list of WAF Talks webinars.

Membership is free and open to all adoptive parents, including anyone at Stage 2 or beyond of the adoption assessment process. To join WAF Talks live or watch any of the talks on demand, as well as to access support groups and resources please join here. If you are already a member and want to register for a talk login here.

September’s Webinars

Thursday 9th September, 8pm

How to choose a secondary school and help them understand your child’s needs with Jane Pickerden and Dr Gabrielle Pelter.

Jane Pickerden is a Consultant Practitioner, Senior Social Worker in the Post Adoption and Special Guardianship Support Team and Dr Gabrielle Pelter is an Educational Psychologist.  Jane and Gabrielle co-facilitate The Education Group run by Adopt London West.

As the secondary school admissions deadline approaches (31 October 2021) for children now entering Year Six in primary school, Jane and Gabrielle will talk about the questions you need to ask potential schools, and will suggest information sources when choosing a school.   They will also talk about how you can develop an effective home/school partnership that begins with the transition meeting in the summer term before the move. Join Jane and Gabrielle to have your questions answered and so you can be prepared for the next stage in your child’s education.


Thursday 23rd September, 8pm

Making contact work with Two Good Mums

Contact with birth family is a topic many adoptive parents are interested in and want to know more about from a number of different perspectives.  With that in mind, WAF Talks will be hosting Making contact work – an uplifting insight into how these two good mums did the best for their sons.

Two Good Mums is made up of first mum Laura, and adoptive mum Peggy.

Peggy and her husband adopted Laura’s two boys, CJ and RJ, when they were babies, in 2008 and 2009 respectively. Their subsequent post-adoption contact has evolved over years into a positive and mutually supportive relationship. They no longer ‘do contact’; instead, they email and Zoom, they get together and catch up. They are family.

In May 2020 Laura and Peggy released their Two Good Mums podcast and over the course of ten episodes, discuss their shared adoption journey. To listen, visit their website www.twogoodmums.co.uk

WAF Talks Webinars

Since the COVID19 pandemic We Are Family have hosted a number of evening online sessions with adoption experts; adopters, adoptees, therapists and professionals, tackling and discussing a range of subjects. These include education, trans racial adoption, the impact of past trauma, contact and much more. Members are welcome to take part through the Q&A, or just listen in, but many agree how valuable the sessions are and the benefits they feel just being part of this safe and supportive community.


‘Very much welcomed, and informative for ALL caregivers of teens!’

WAF Talks Webinar: Teenagers and behaviour – how we can support them to thrive with Adele Bates, Behaviour and Education specialist – 20 July


‘There is a lot more to music therapy than music!’

WAF Talks Webinar: What about music therapy? With Crystal Luk, Music Therapist – 8 July 2021


‘…how precious it is to be able to listen to adoptees and birth parents and other adopters.’

WAF Talks Webinar: Contact and Identity Workshop with Julie Young, Centre for Research on Children and Families – 20 May 2021


‘Really good … excellent speakers and of all the training/reading we’ve done, I still find their advice some of the most helpful.’

GBB Therapeutic parenting speakers event – 12 January 2020


‘I am a single adopter who has never been able to attend one of these sessions in person and really hope you will continue with the Zoom platform moving forward.’

Adoption Support available with Adopt London South – 9 March 2020