Resources

How can we help you? Each and every member of London’s adoption community has a different story to tell.  The resources here we hope will help answer your questions and guide you on your path to finding a new family. There are books, reading materials, videos, contacts and other organisation that can help broaden your knowledge around adopting and the process to match you with a child.

Recommended Reading for Prospective Adopters

  • Building the Bonds of Attachment (2017) by Daniel A Hughes
  • The Primal Wound: Understanding the adopted child (2009) by Nancy Verrier
  • The Simple Guide to Child Trauma: What It Is and How to Help by Betsy de Thierry (2016)
  • A Child’s Journey through Placement by Vera Fahlberg UK Edition, (2012)
  • Why love matters. How affection shapes a baby’s brain by Sue Gerhardt, second edition, (2014)
  • Adoption the essential guide by Diana Cambridge, (2012)
  • The Adopter’s Handbook by Amy Neil Slater, (2012)
  • Adopting a Child by Jennifer Lord, (2011)
  • Parenting a child affected by Parental Substance Misuse, by Donald Forrester (2012)
  • Related by adoption: a handbook for grandparents and other relatives by Heidi Argent, (2014)
  • No Matter What: An Adoptive Family’s Story of Hope, Love and Healing by Sally Donovan (2013)
  • Nurturing natures: Attachment and Children’s Emotional, Sociocultural and Brain Development by Graham Music, (2010)
  • Adopting a Brother or Sister (2010), Heidi Argent
  • Dad David, Baba Chris and Me (2010), Ed Merchant
  • Watch – Adopting a child with additional needs.
  • An Adoption Diary, A couple’s journey from infertility to parenthood (2006), M James
  • Approaching Fatherhood – A guide for adoptive dads and others (2005) by Paul May
  • Managing Contact by Henrietta Bond, (2007)

About Transracial, Black and Minority Ethnic Adoption

For LGBT+ adopters

  • New Family Social launched thier LGBT+ adoption and fostering postcast in May 2020. “Adoption, Fostering & Tea” is by and for the LGBT+ adopters and foster carers and is now available by streaming services and via the New Family Social website.
  • Two Dads: A book about adoption by Carolyn Robertson and Sophie Humphreys, (2014)
  • And Tango Makes Three, by Justin Richardson, (2007)
  • The Pink Guide to Adoption for Lesbians and Gay men by Nicola Hill, (2012)
  • Becoming Dads, Pablo Fernandez (2011)

For Single Adopters

Useful Websites, documentaries & podcasts

Films about Adoption

  • Secrets & Lies, is a 1996 British drama film written and directed by Mike Leigh – also about an adult who was adopted seeking more understanding about her birth parents and life story.
  • Mercy Mercy: A true story of adoption, Danish film on an intercountry transracial adoption from Ethiopia, 2012.
  • Philomena is a 2013 British drama film directed by Stephen Frears – on adult who was adopted as a child seeking more understanding about his birth mother and life story.
  • Lion is a 2016 biographical film directed by Garth Davis – on international adoption from India but also relevant to transracial adoption.
  • Instant Family, 2018 – A comedy about parents who adopt a sibling group of three children

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