How can we help you? Each and every member of London’s adoption community has a different story to tell.  The resources here we hope will help answer your questions and guide you on your path to finding a new family. There are books, reading materials, videos, contacts and other organisation that can help broaden your knowledge around adopting and the process to match you with a child.

Recommended Reading for Prospective Adopters

  • Building the Bonds of Attachment (2017) by Daniel A Hughes
  • The Primal Wound: Understanding the adopted child (2009) by Nancy Verrier
  • Loving and Living with Traumatised Children. Reflections by Adoptive Parents by Megan Hirst, (2005)
  • The Simple Guide to Child Trauma: What It Is and How to Help by Betsy de Thierry (2016)
  • Attachment, Trauma and Resilience – Therapeutic caring for children by Kate Cairns, (2002)
  • A Child’s Journey through Placement by Vera Fahlberg UK Edition, (2012)
  • Could you be my parent? Adoption and Fostering stories by Leonie Sturge-Moore, (2005)
  • Why love matters. How affection shapes a baby’s brain by Sue Gerhardt, second edition, (2014)
  • Adoption the essential guide by Diana Cambridge, (2012)
  • The Adopter’s Handbook by Amy Neil Slater, (2012)
  • Adopting a Child by Jennifer Lord, (2011)
  • Parenting a child affected by Parental Substance Misuse, by Donald Forrester (2012)
  • An Adoption Diary, A couple’s journey from infertility to parenthood (2006), M James
  • Approaching Fatherhood – A guide for adoptive dads and others (2005) by Paul May
  • Managing Contact by Henrietta Bond, (2007)
  • Related by adoption: a handbook for grandparents and other relatives by Heidi Argent, (2014)
  • No Matter What: An Adoptive Family’s Story of Hope, Love and Healing by Sally Donovan (2013)
  • Raising Boys: Why Boys are Different – and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men (1997) by Steve Biddulph
  • Nurturing natures: Attachment and Children’s Emotional, Sociocultural and Brain Development by Graham Music, (2010)
  • First steps in parenting the child who hurts: Tiddlers and Toddlers by Caroline Archer (1999)
  • Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss (1994), C Jewett Adopting a Brother or Sister (2010), Heidi Argent
  • Dad David, Baba Chris and Me (2010), Ed Merchant
  • Oh Brother! Tom gets a New Brother, Clare Friday (2005)

For LGBT+ adopters

  • Two Dads: A book about adoption by Carolyn Robertson and Sophie Humphreys, (2014)
  • And Tango Makes Three, by Justin Richardson, (2007)
  • The Pink Guide to Adoption for Lesbians and Gay men by Nicola Hill, (2012)
  • Becoming Dads, Pablo Fernandez (2011)
  • New Family Social launched thier LGBT+ adoption and fostering postcast in May 2020. “Adoption, Fostering & Tea” is by and for the LGBT+ adopters and foster carers and is now available by streaming services and via the New Family Social website.

About Transracial, Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic Adoption

  • Caring for a child of a different ethnicity – Bristol City Council
  • Race, ethnicity and culture: managing difference in transracial placements
  • Transracially adopted adults and adoption support by Perlita Harris / Goldsmiths, University of London, UK (2014) Adoption and Fostering – Vol. 38(4) 346–360
  • In Search of Belonging: Reflections by Transracially Adopted People: Reflections of Transracially Adopted People Paperback – Edited by Perlita Harris (2006)
  • Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race by Reni Eddo-Lodge (2017).
  • Looking after our own – Stories of Black and Asian Adopters Edited by Hope Massiah, (2005)
  • Working with children of mixed parentage, Toyin Okitikpi, (2005)

For Single Adopters

Useful Websites, documentaries & podcasts

Films about Adoption

  • Secrets & Lies, is a 1996 British drama film written and directed by Mike Leigh – also about an adult who was adopted seeking more understanding about her birth parents and life story.
  • Mercy Mercy: A true story of adoption, Danish film on an intercountry transracial adoption from Ethiopia, 2012.
  • Philomena is a 2013 British drama film directed by Stephen Frears – on adult who was adopted as a child seeking more understanding about his birth mother and life story.
  • Lion is a 2016 biographical film directed by Garth Davis – on international adoption from India but also relevant to transracial adoption.
  • Instant Family, 2018 – A comedy about parents who adopt a sibling group of three children

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